I won!!! 700,000.00!

I received this letter from Yahoo, U.K. & Ireland division office in England. Along with a request for my personal information and banking information… for one second, I wanted to believe! But I went to online scammers.com and there they were.

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This was nothing more than a scam. I was randomly picked to be scammed. Possibly because of my “frail” nature; having a chronic illness. More likely they just hoped I was simply stupid. I am neither of those things they presumed. I wasn’t scammed, but I feel a sense of violation. That somehow I was inappropriately touched or exposed and left defenseless.

This brought up a few more issues. This morning one of my dogs had run through an open gate on our property and disappeared. Come to find out that there was a trespasser in our yard last night trying to steal our bikes. When the wannabe thief left the property sans any bike, s/he neglected to close the gate, so the dog escaped. It took us an hour to find her.

Stay out of my yard! If it is not yours, don’t touch it! If it is not your money to give, don’t give it! If you are trying to scam people out of their money, rot in hell!

I was angry. I felt taken advantage of and weak. I was losing my sense of control. (I already had one hell of a week and am just getting back on my feet, now this!) So I needed a plan to regain some control, a feeling of power over powerlessness, a sense of security; no means no!

In order to figure this out, I had to talk with some very important “me’s.” The one-year-old, the 16-year-old, and twenty-something year old and me, now. I know this sounds nuts! But it works. What do you need to feel safe? Secure? Protected?

A one-year-old needs something entirely different than a twenty-something-year-old. A 16-year-old needs something very different than a 50-year-old. So I made a list. I gathered my supplies, and I bought some stuff. (On Amazon, overnight delivery!) Every item I gathered or bought brought me a feeling of comfort. A sense of safety from bodily harm. Then, when I was done, a feeling of peace washed over my weariness. I had regained control.

The “stuff” I gathered and bought isn’t what is important.  The important thing is I was feeling powerless in my own home. I wanted my power back! So I made conscious choices to do that by taking care of my internal and external needs. Sometimes, when you are feeling overwhelmed and out of control, you need to just sit down and take an inventory. Gather the things you need until that peace washes over you and you are feeling back in control.

That is the only control you have, and that is your reaction.

Version 2~Kim

13 comments

  1. Excellent advice…… In order to figure this out, I had to talk with some very important “me’s.” The one-year-old, the 16-year-old, and twenty-something year old and me, now. I know this sounds nuts! But it works. What do you need to feel safe? Secure? Protected? It doesn’t sound strange at all! Great Advice!!! And you couldn’t be more accurate when you say your reaction is your control. Thank you for sharing this 🙂

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  2. Scam artists like that are such scum, I sometimes don’t think they realise the devastating impact they can have on people. Ditto the wannabe bike thief, who I hope fell over while running away and at least badly twisted their ankle. Glad you managed to locate the runaway pup, and also work through how this has all affected you, while giving some pertinent advice. Hugs you to Kim..xx

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  3. People like that disgust me! What ever happened to working for a living? I’ve often said if they put as much energy into building something up instead of trying to take from other people they could be millionaires. I’m glad you were able to do what you needed to feel secure, and I’m really glad you were able to find your fur-baby. Thanks for sharing some great advice for when we encounter the unexpected. Hope you’re able to relax and recover some today.

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  4. It is truly upsetting how many scams there are out there! I don’t know how these people can sleep at night. They have to know how much this can upset people and yet they do it anyways. My debit card information has been stolen several times and that was so upsetting. I mean, my bank did give me the money back that was stolen but for someone to do that is so rude! As hard as it is, please don’t let these ignorant and hateful people take away your strong and amazing spirit!! I am always sending you love and comfort!!!

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    1. The banks are very good to work with these days! I had a couple of items that I bought… long story, I got my money back with the help of the bank. No way these losers are going to kill my spirit. They can try but I will always come out the winner! Trials, all just trials. We are smarter and can take them but what low lives! All good, I got this!~Kim

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