Let’s Play Anthropologist!

Anyone else nervous about the holidays coming up?

I just had to take a ten-minute break to get my head together so I can write this post! Yes, I am nervous about the approaching holidays. It all seems so very overwhelming. I wish I could still get stupid drunk!

I do know that I can and will handle the holidays and all that it entails.

Seeing family members is not an issue, perse’. (Is that latin?) It is the amount of them all at once with a lot of food and noise! It is taking pictures and playing games, doing the dishes, eating more, then doing dishes again! It is exhausting just thinking about it. Now, let’s throw in not knowing how you’ll feel that day or each hour of that day! Then … will I have fibro fog?!?!? Hey, it’s a plus for me because I can’t remember a thing but a bummer for everyone else because I’m a bit of a moron.

So, I once talked to a therapist about this very issue. She said, {…please insert your credit card for a payment of $180…} “Pretend you are an anthropologist and you are going to observe a newly discovered tribe.” WHAT? A tribe? A newly discovered tribe? Really? Is that supposed to be a joke??? Well, she wasn’t kidding!

So I gave it a shot …

I walked through an open doorway into an entry that leads to a full and open rectangular room. The leader of the tribe greeted me with, “Kimmo, you’re here!” There were small people in the tribe that looked very much like the bigger ones. The little tribe people ran to me for hugs…

I’ll be… this is working!

This is how I do my holidays’ folks, I observe the tribe. I will participate in their customs only if invited to. I will converse with them only if conversed with first. Otherwise, I will observe … mentally noting the movement and conversation of the tribe. I am present, observant, not engaging … this is an anthropological discovery of a new tribe after all!

In all seriousness, this does work. I pretend to be an anthropologist. Tah-Da!

My husband and I spend very little of our holidays with the tribe, his or mine… a few hours for each side. We have started our own traditions. We drive through the rich neighborhoods around the lakes in Minneapolis and look at Christmas light decorations.  Then we like to be home, in front of the fire, watching old Christmas movies OR Despicable ME. Now that’s a holiday! Lights, leftovers, popcorn, and minions!

IMG_0250 ~The Anthropologist.