It is important to realize that some people just cannot understand what fibromyalgia is. They may want to but it is very difficult. (Remember how difficult it was for you to understand at the beginning?) However, these are the people in your life who stand by you. No matter what. They may not always say the right thing or do the right thing according to you, but they are trying. Not only are they struggling with the loss of the person they knew you to be, but now they must get to know a new you. You look the same, but you are not! It is a modern-day invasion of the body snatchers!
Trying to interpret another person’s intentions is almost impossible… is ignorance malicious? No, it is not malicious. Uniformed but not malicious. Unless there is ill-will behind a comment. If a person is saying something to intentionally hurt you then they do not get to claim ignorance. That is malicious and unacceptable. So, no matter how clueless a person tends to be, being ignorant is simply being uninformed.
Then there comes the unique sort of person who believes that their negative past experiences entitle them to treat others any way they please. They believe others owe them something because of it. “I treat you this way because it’s how I was treated.” Too damn bad, grow up and get yourself some therapy! You don’t get a ‘pass’ because you were mistreated in the past. You have my empathy but I will not allow you to mistreat me, nor will I excuse your abusive behavior…
You decide who is a positive force in your life and who is not. I recommend you save your energy and surround yourself with those positive beings who make your life better and you, in return, can be a positive force in their lives.